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no spoilers, promise.*

did i binge all 8 roughly 52 minutes episodes already, yes .. no shame.

viewing this from the lens of a woman in her 30’s who is navigating the single world in this generation, there are a lot of beautiful lessons riddled along the storyline of the new short series Forever via Netflix.

I think we’ve thrown ourselves into this “standing on business” culture in the name of being mature and “not doing it for the plot”, pushing the idea that life simply isn’t that black and white to the side. As teenagers love hurts but we take the plunge less guarded, more vulnerable.

Average example, blocking someone because they didn’t reply to our message fast enough, knowing that we grew up in an era where we had to wait till we were home to sign on aim or even better till our parents fell asleep to connect. In hindsight the evolution of social media has impacted what romance looks like in this generation and sadly not in the best way. The sense of urgency and codependency because we’ve gotten so accustomed, addicted possibly .. to unlimited access to people at the simple touch of a button. Therefore, when instant gratification and validation isn’t fulfilled the bruised ego tends to respond emotionally.

Let’s be clear, me included. Definitely guilty of catching an attitude when a friend, family member or a significant other has taken long to respond or return a call. I’ve also been met with an attitude when I took long to respond. Depending on the conversation .. especially as someone who is not best at multitasking I’d rather wait till I can be attentive to reply or return a call. The funniest and ironic part being that communication would solve this problem if we’d ditch the pride and ego. We get so wrapped up in ourselves at times, we forget everyone is just trying to keep themself afloat.

A general example to say that maybe we’re making this more complicated than it needs to be honestly. I think a lot of us are standing in our own way of genuine love. We don’t want to get hurt but the hardest part about love is we have to put ourselves out there at the risk of getting hurt to feel it.

On a different note, I loved that the series showcased when teenagers are given consent to date, parents can be more involved and help them navigate the challenges that come along. I believe when you come from a Caribbean background like *muah* where dating at a young age is taboo, you tend to figure it out all on your own and unfortunately it leaves you to carry most burdens alone.

ok rambling finito ..

sidebar , I’m not advising you to unblock anyone who clearly does not have your best interest at heart lols but maybe we learn to face the music, have the hard uncomfortable conversations moving forward.. no relationship, platonic or romantic interest is going to be perfect .. perfection simply just doesn’t exist. stronger relationships are built by going through the fire, you have to go through to get through as a wise woman once said.

walking away doesn’t always have to be beef it can be moving on gracefully.

a short piece inspired by Forever ;

my abundance of consideration for both of us

initiated separation for individual introspection

lack of communication ..

increasing hesitation ..

simple as confusion being conclusion

will reintroduction forge connection

they say “prevention is better than cure“

is this representation of healthy love

people die from heart break

why does it feel like i’m living with one the way my heart aches

Thanking God this is not a season of hibernation ..

even with my concentration on loved ones, passions + the daily mundane

thoughts of you in abundance

no consideration for our separation

hesitation to initiate communication

just a million and one unsent LOVE letters

confusion ..

maybe this is our conclusion , no more introductions

or this whole preparation must be for a cure,

may prevention be succession in us forever more

i’ve experienced the highest version of love .. letting go

if it’s real it’ll find us once more.

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Alexa play Every Kind of Way by HER “i want you off my mind and ..”

scariest part about love is that it might just be an experience, not forever.